Sexuality. Christianity. They don’t go together, right?

Wrong.

While it is true that Christian churches frown upon pre-marital sex, there are much deeper connections between sex and God (if you believe in Him) that go way beyond any law or religion out there.

First off, sex is good, since anything God created is good, as said in the book of Genesis, the first book of the Bible.

But let’s look at the word “sex” more closely. Some scholars believe it comes from the Latin word “secare,” which means to cut or disconnect from the whole. In that sense, our sexuality comes in two dimensions. The first is our awareness of our disconnection, and the second includes the ways we go about trying to reconnect.

When we long for a relationship, we’re longing for a connection; someone we can be comfortable with. We realize we’re disconnected from intimacy and we want to fill that void. It’s great when we finally have that connection, but when we screw up and lose it, things can get ugly.

And that’s what happened when Eve “screwed up” and ate from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil after God warned her and Adam not to. They had a connection and intimacy with God, and were so comfortable with Him that they were “naked and felt no shame,” in Genesis 2:25.

You often hear about a lover kicking his or her cheating partner out of the house. In a sense, that’s what God did. He kicked Adam and Eve out of the Garden of Eden, His home. This idea even shows up later in the first of the Ten Commandments, which says “I am the Lord your God … You shall have no other gods before me.”

That’s God’s way of saying “Don’t cheat on me.”

So does that mean we’re in a relationship with God? Is He our lover in a sense? I believe we were created to have a relationship with God. Anyone who grew up in a church environment probably remembers their priest or pastor saying how we’re supposed to love God more than anyone or anything else.

With any healthy relationship, however, we can’t be only half-committed. Granted, that doesn’t mean becoming a priest or nun, but a wife wouldn’t only half-commit to the man she marries and the same goes for husbands. So if we can’t be half-committed to who we date (I mean date like relationship, not hook-up), then we can’t be half-committed to God, either.

You see in the movies how the rejected lover does everything they can to win back their lost love, but ultimately it’s up to the other person to take them back or not. In the same way, for those who are trying to “win back” God’s love after cheating (by falling short, or “sinning”), trying to live a good life or having a good philosophy is like calling endlessly and buying expensive gifts that do little to impress. It’s ultimately up to God to decide whether He wants to take us back or not.

The good news is He does want to take us back because He really does love us.

But what is love?

Love is being vulnerable, giving your heart and taking the risk of having it rejected. Ultimately, love is giving up power and stripping yourself of control.

God is so powerful that in the Book of Exodus, the Hebrews, after being led out of Egypt, told Moses to not have God speak, or they would die, because God speaking is too much to bear.

So God stripped Himself of His power and came down to Earth as Jesus Christ. It’s said that the ultimate act of love is giving your life for someone, and that’s what God did as Christ by dying on the cross. The “someone” in this case is all of us. So to win back God’s love after being rejected, we just have to believe that He died for us as Christ and humbly accept that that love is unattainable by our own efforts.

I know people who say that those who don’t have God’s love can’t give love, and I agree to a certain extent. Relationships, whether they be friendships or intimate, are definitely different when God is involved. When we have God’s love, we’re in the ultimate relationship, and our sexuality, viewing it in terms of being connected, is at its peak.

– contributed by a

News Staff member.